Laxmi Ghalan

Director of the Kids Tree Preschool, served from 1972 to 1977.

President Message 

 

When I was 16 years of age, I fell in love with Meera. Our love was blooming smoothly. We used to pass our days being together all days. The rumor of our relationship was broke out in the locality. The rumor reached to the ears of our parents. The quarrel grew between Meera's and my family. My father bit my mother very badly for my relationship with Meera. We planned to run away to Kathmandu because our families would not let us be together. I ran away first, but Meera’s family locked her up in her house and beat her before she could run. She got so depressed as a result she took poison to kill herself. She remained unconscious for 17 days. As soon as she woke up in the hospital, she asked them to call me. I noticed it and came running to her. We decided to run away from there immediately and we did accordingly. We found a house and started living together. My father came there and found us, and then he beat us both and tried to take us home on the bus. When the bus stopped on the way, we ran into the bushes. We walked for 12 hours and slept in an empty house. We had no food or money but a bus driver understood our problem and let us travels back to Kathmandu for free. We are the first lesbian couple to come out in Nepal. People started talking about our relationship. Most of them mistreated us. We turned deaf ear to the people and started living together happily. During these days we got threatening mainly from Meera's family, relatives and society. We thought for suicide of our own then but fortunately we changed our decision for suicide. We decided to work for the welfare of lesbian people. As aresult, after few months, we established Mitini Nepal, an organization for the rights of LBT women in Kathmandu.

Nepal is regarded one of the most progressive countries in regards to the constitutional provisions for the rights of LGBTI community. Despite numerous discourses on equality and participation, it is impossible to empower the Sexual and Gender minorities without economic, political and social empowerment. Hence, it is pivotal for the government to introduce inclusive reforms and plans for LGBTI communities across geographies, sexes and races. Additionally, the government must conduct thorough study and research on the diverse LGBTI community with appropriate methodologies to understand and implement concrete and tangible needs of the community. 

We idealize a Utopia with civilized communities and good Samaritans but within this Utopia, we often fail to acknowledge sexual and gender minorities as an equal and integral part of the Utopian world we seek. Due to the double standards, the members of LGBTI communities are obligated to indulge in activities which are regarded uncivilized even for the sake survival. And again, the LGBTI individuals are stigmatized and stereotyped by the so called civilized members of the community. This constant loop is a result of lack of awareness and ignorance on the issue. This practice needs to change immediately for the overall development of our country. Not just in case of LGBT community but in regards to all the human rights abuses done in the name of culture, religion or ideology which all comes down to lack of awareness. Hence, Mitini Nepal takes great pride in its efforts to ensure a community free of stigma and full of love and unity. Also, we want "YOU" to be an equal part of our movement! 

Solidarity for Love!